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5 Steps to Building Your Christian Marriage


You might be surprised to discover that this article was not submitted by someone who has been married many years.  I am a 26 year old never married single male who thought this article was interesting.  I am asking our married readers to let me know how accurate this article is.  Is it on the mark?  Are there additional steps to be added?

This article was summarized from an article by Mary Fairchild called “How to Keep Your Christian Marriage Strong and Healthy”

Step 1 – Pray Together

Set aside time each day to pray with your spouse.

Ask God to fill you with His Holy Spirit and give us strength for the day ahead. It will bring you closer together as you care for each other every day. Think about what the day ahead holds for your partner. Your loving affection goes beyond the physical realm to the emotional and spiritual realm. This develops true intimacy with each other and with God.

Perhaps a better time for you as a couple might be just before you go to bed each night. It’s impossible to fall asleep angry when you’ve just held hands together in God’s presence.

 Step 2 – Read Together

Set aside time each day, or at least once a week, to read the Bible together.

This might also be described as a time of devotions. Read to each other, either from the Bible or from a devotional book, and then spend a few minutes in prayer together.

Commit to rising from sleep about 30 minutes earlier in order to do this, let it be a wonderful, intimate time of strengthening your marriage.

 Step 3 – Make Decisions Together

Commit to making important decision together.

I’m not talking about deciding on what to eat for dinner. Major decisions, like financial ones, are best decided as a couple. One of the greatest areas of strain in a marriage is the sphere of finances. As a couple you should discuss your finances on a regular basis, even if one of you is better at handling the practical aspects, like paying the bills and balancing the check book. Keeping secrets about spending will drive a wedge between a couple faster than anything.

 Step 4 – Attend Church Together

Get involved in church together.

Find a place of worship where you and your spouse will not only attend together, but enjoy areas of mutual interest, such as serving in a ministry and making Christian friends together. The Bible says in Hebrews 10:24-25, that one of the best ways we can stir up love and encourage good deeds is by remaining faithful to the Body of Christ by meeting together regularly as believers.

Step 5 – Continue Dating

Set aside special, regular times to continue developing your romance.

Once married, couples often neglect the area of romance, especially after the kids come along. Continuing a dating life may take some strategic planning on your part as a couple, but it is vital to maintaining a secure and intimate marriage. Keeping the romantic love alive will also be a bold testimony to the strength of your Christian marriage.


These 5 steps require real, committed effort on your part. Falling in love may have seemed effortless, but keeping your Christian marriage strong will take ongoing work. The good news is—building a healthy marriage is not all that complicated or difficult if you’re determined to follow a few basic principles.

Clinton Williams

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